Couple Therapy

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Couple therapy

Marriage or couple therapy can sometimes be perceived as the last resort or a crisis option for people in relationships. Akin to individual counselling, people can wait until they feel they have no other choice apart from therapy. Admittedly, turning to your partner and discussing the concept of seeing a third party to help “save the relationship” can be an extremely daunting thought, however, there is an enormous amount of evidence supporting the multiple benefits of couples therapy.

According to research done by the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, families and couples who have attended family or couples therapy sessions indicate high levels of patient satisfaction. After working with a marriage or family therapist, 93 percent of patients said they had more effective tools for dealing with their problems. They also reported improved physical health and the ability to function better at work after attending therapy.

Statistics show that couples or family therapy can be more effective than individual therapy. When a couple or a family goes to therapy together, they have the chance to work on their group dynamic, and this leads them to success faster. Typically, it takes about a third fewer sessions to accomplish a goal in family or couples therapy than it does in individual therapy. As with any type of therapy this can vary quite broadly, it always depends on circumstance, the clients, the issues and the attitudes they possess towards these issues.

Referring back to the idea that many people seek marriage counselling in a last attempt to ‘save the relationship’ which may not always be the case. It is not the therapist’s job to tell couples the secret to being in a perfect relationship (because there isn’t one), every partnership is different with various goals retained by each partner and issues that need to be uncovered in a safe place to discuss them.

The following questions and answers are taken from an interview with our MyMind therapist Laura O’Brien who specialises in couples counselling.

Can you outline what a couple’s counselling session would involve?

“The first session would be an assessment, or a series of questions that I’d ask each individual in the couple. When they first talk about therapy, you will get an impression of who is pushing therapy more. When you go through the questions, you need a positive response to each question, for example ‘Why are you here?’ The response I’m looking for as a therapist is, ‘To improve my relationship, or to save my relationship’. If they say, ‘because she or he made me’ – right away we have to go back to the beginning and start from there.”

What is most important aspects of healthy relationship?

“I think to share the same values and basic needs. I think the need for love and belonging should be very strong in a relationship and the need for power needs not to be oppressive to someone. If you love someone and want to share a life with someone, you don’t want to control them. I think that power is a controlling aspect, and to have a healthy relationship, this need to love has to outweigh the need for power.”

If you would like to see the full interview please follow the link here:

If you feel that you would like to attend a couples counselling session with your partner or would feel more comfortable with more information, please feel free to contact us at:

hq@mymind.org or call us at : (+353) 76 680 1060.